A blog by Dr. Harry Henshaw
Posts tagged responsibility
What are you committed to in life, structure or chaos?
Sep 1st
This is a simple question to asks anyone whether they are in recovery or practicing transformation. What are you committed to in life? Are you committed to structure or are you committed to chaos? Your answer to this question is important. Regardless of what you say, the truth of your commitment will show up in your behavior.
If you are committed to chaos you will find life very difficult. You will also find doing recovery difficult, if not impossible. To be committed to chaos means that you will not do what you say you would do, you will be late for appointments, if you show up at all, will not complete on much of the work that you need to do to change or transform your life. Living life from the perspective of chaos will also allow you to take no absolutely no responsibility for your life, giving you the ability to blame others.
To be structured is to put order into your life. To be structured means that I will set up goals and take on accomplishing them through doing what I need to do. I will show up for my appointments and do what I say I will do. I will create a plan for my week, for my month, and then will go about making what I want happen. Structure lets me predict what will happen to me, as I am the one actively creating life, not being the effect of life. Creating the habit of structure will allow you to transform your life.
Ten Principles for Transformation in Recovery.
Aug 20th
The ten principles listed below can be of assistance to a person who is in recovery. While they are not to be confused as the actual work in recovery they will provide a frame or structure from which to do recovery.
1. To take complete ownership and responsibility for your life. Understand that you have created and chosen your life the way it is occurring. You are the cause of what you experience and your life.
2. Watch your word! Stay present to what you think and say. Choose to say positive things about yourself and others. What you think and say creates your experiences of how life will occur and be for you.
3. Practice your Self Affirmations and Possibilities everyday. Say your Self Affirmations and Possibilities in the morning, throughout the day and before bedtime.
4. What is your Intention? Plan your Intention each morning upon awakening and stay present to it throughout the day. What are you committed to today? What are you committed to now? What is it that you want to create in your life? What is it that you want to create now?
5. Develop your RECOVERY PLAN. Plan your work. Your RECOVERY PLAN is about your life. Your RECOVERY PLAN is about your Integrity. Integrity is the bottom line. Are you in integrity with your RECOVERY PLAN. Are you in Integrity with your life?
6. Develop your DAILY ACTION PLAN. Work your plan. Do it everyday! Your DAILY ACTION PLAN is about your commitment and integrity with respect to your RECOVERY PLAN. Your DAILY ACTION PLAN is about fulfilling on your intention and commitments. Your DAILY ACTION PLAN is about keeping your RECOVERY PLAN in existence!
7. Acknowledge yourself and others daily. Acknowledge the miracles in your life. Practice affirming that every moment of your life is a miracle.
8. Practice patience! Remember that you are doing the best you can. At the moment that we do we do the best we can. When you know more, you will do things differently. Do this in regards to others too.
9. Share with others what you are getting out of your recovery.
10. STAY HUNGRY FOR YOUR RECOVERY!
Daily Homework – Four Principles to Transform your life.
Jul 25th
There are ten principles to the Daily Homework. Presented here are the first four:
1. To take complete ownership and responsibility for your life. Understand that you have created and chosen your life the way it is occuring. You are the cause of what you experience and your life.
2. Watch your word. Stay presen to what you think and say. Choose to say positive things about yourself and others. What you think and say creates your experiences of how life will occur and be for you.
3. Practice your Self Affirmations and Possibilities everyday. Say your Self Affirmations and Possibilities in the morning, through out the day and before bedtime.
4. What is your intention? Plan your intention each morning upon awakening stay present to it throughout the day. What are you committed to today? What are you committed to now? What is it that you want to create in your life? What is it that you want to create now?
Read each principle slowly and contemplate them daily, throughout the day!
It is in our word and action that our responsibility is expressed.
May 22nd
We are responsible for our life. It is in our word and action that our responsibility is expressed. What we say, our word, is important, it has an impact. But unless our behavior or action matches up with our word, there is no being authentic or integrity in our life. Being responsible is carrying out our word, doing what we say we would do. We have to be very present to what we say we will do or promise, present that when we say something that we will do for someone that we will actually do it, not just say so and not fulfill on our promise. How we show up in life to others will be determined by how responsible we appear to them, how much we honor our word. We are our word, and actions, to others in life.
Taking responsibility for life.
May 21st
It is important to take complete ownership and responsibility for your life. We do need to understand that we have created and chosen your life the way it is occurring for you. We are the cause of what we experience and our life. This is a true point of power, to fully accept and acknowledge this. We are the cause of life and not the effect, even though sometimes we believe we are the latter. Restoring our power is to assume our responsibility, for everything in our life. To practice taking responsibility is to accept life and ourselves as they are, fully, openly, with no blame.