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Creating Structure and Staying with it will help You to Transform your life.

Dr Harry Henshaw — Fri, 13 May 2011 21:17:43 +0000

I believe that having structure in my life helps me better accomplish my goals. This is especially true when there are a variety of projects happening at the same time. The structure that I create helps me to monitor my efforts and also to be accountable for my actions, my behavior that is essentially directed at achieving what I say I want out of life. I especially use this approach in my music profession and the project that I have taken on developing or creating for myself.

In my counseling work with clients I always attempt to enroll them into this type of strategy for managing their life. For the most part, there is a great deal of resistance with respect to the entire goal setting process. Many clients will go through the process of creating structure and then do not follow through with it. Some refuse to do it completely. The resistance to creating structure that will help you to follow through with what you say you want is merely a statement that you truly want to stay the same. The pay off is that the individual does not have to be responsible for his life. I believe that the only way we will change or transform our life is through creating structure.

This structure will appear as having a general plan for what you are wanting to do and also a daily action plan. The general plan is a the goals of what I want to have happen and the daily action plan is how, everyday, I will go about making them happen. The more specific and positive the goals the better. The more time and place specific for the daily action plan the better.

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Our Nature as Human Being Involves Resistance.

Dr Harry Henshaw — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 19:50:13 +0000

As human beings we do not really want or like to change. We like for things to be the same, for us not to have to put forth much effect to have what we say we want. We do not want to change and even, will resist change especially if another human being attempts to help us. Yes, we do change but we have to first get it that we do not want to change. Accepting our resistance is important for the process. We must first accept the fact that we will resist change in order for us to take it into consideration in our planning to transform our lives. It is important for us to plan and to make goals but it is equally important for us to plan how we will resist the process, will resist our achieving the goals we set. Such planning gives us power to respond appropriately when needed.

In my work in recovery I counsel people in how to recognize when they are resisting, when they are doing things to counter the goals they set and say they want. Such insight is important and necessary if individuals are to say in the program of recovery. The resistance will also show up in the very suggestions that are given, by a sponsor or therapist. The tendency is not only to resist but to continue to do it his or her way, with the results usually the same, much of how it was in the past. Our tendency is to try to do things and life our way, even when we continue to get the same results.

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Using Affirmations to Transform your life.

Dr Harry Henshaw — Sat, 24 Jul 2010 01:00:23 +0000

Louise Hay has written and spoken about the power of positive affirmations for years. She believes that using positive affirmations consistently will change and transform your life. While their transformative power is being confirmed and utilized more and more, using positive affirmations can also be difficult and even frustrating. For some, after a period of using positive affirmation they sometimes experience resistance to their continued use. What happens is that the positive affirmation are in conflict, sometimes direct conflict, to the thoughts and beliefs that the person has in their mind. Many of these thoughts, ideas and beliefs have to do with what the person believes to be about themselves as a person, who they are in life. In essence, ones identity gets calls into question, gets confronted and it is from the confrontation that ones experiences a sense of frustration and with it, creates a tendency to avoid and move after from and even stop the use of positive affirmation. It is at this point that one has possibility of a breakthrough in their life, that is, if they are able to push through the resistance and stick with their use. Sticking with the use of positive affirmations over an extended period of time can transform your life, can transform even who you believe yourself to be in the world.

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When is someone ready to transform his or her life?

Dr Harry Henshaw — Fri, 28 May 2010 00:46:20 +0000

The question of when is someone ready to transform his or her life is an important one to consider. Such a question is important for any therapist or sponsor to consider and contemplate. It is my opinion that a person is ready to transform their life when they are ready to do the work and become committed to the process. This does not mean that they will not resist the process as they definitely will resist. It does not mean that there will be no upsets or breakdowns during the person’s transformation because there will be, something that should be counted on happening. Resistance and breakdowns are part of the deal, part of the journey. In addition,a person is ready to transform his or her life when they begin to move their inquiry and focus to themselves and away from others, away from people, places and things, when they give up the blame and thinking that someone else is the cause of their life. A person is ready to transform their life when they start to assume responsibility for the life, for how they act, feel and think, for their very way of being.

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