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Positive Affirmations for Creating Healthy Relationships in your life.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

Positive Affirmations can be utilized for helping you to create healthy relationships in your life.  What and how you think is that from which you source into your life.  Practicing the positive affirmations listed below will help you to source positive relationships into your life.

1.  I am loving, lovable and loved.

2.  I accept others for who they are and who they are not.

3.  I joyously forgive others and myself and I set myself free from the past.  I am at peace.

4.  I love and accept myself exactly as I am now.

5.  I love.  I am love.

6.  I respect and care about others.

7.  I am grateful for the people in my life.

8.  I deserve love in my life.

9.  I love everything about myself.

10.  I attract loving relationships into my life.

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Events and experience can create the space for us to develop beliefs that limit us in life.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

While I believe that events or experience do not cause a belief to be created, I do believe that they do create the space for us to form or develop a thought or belief that will in turn affect our life and behavior.  For example, while I can not blame my failed marriage and the divorce that took place for being the cause of the failed relationship that I had shortly after my divorce I do believe that the event of the divorce created space for me to think about and perceive relationships and in this case women in a particular way.  From the perception that I formed I acted accordingly, and as a result the relationship that I had after the divorce failed.  Much of what was created was about mistrust which I carried over to my new relationship.  Much of what I carried over I was not aware of, as if it were hidden from me.  My awareness of it is starting to surface with the assistance of counseling.  Hopefully the processing and insight that I will gain from my work will help me to see differently and more adequately.

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Chapter Three – Decide what you want.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

After I decide why I am here, what is my purpose, I must decide on what I want, what I want to be, have and do. According to Canfield, one of the reasons why people do not get what they want is that they have not decided what they want. What do I want to have show up in my life, with respect to my achievements, with my relationships, in every doman of my life.

Sometimes past programming has gotten in the way of me having what I want. At times I have pursued interests that were not mine but others, seeking approval primarily and not that which I was out to obtain or experience. In my attempt to have the approval of another I settle or sell out on what I really want to have, be or do.

I do deserve to have things in life the way that I want them to be. It is my thinking that creates the space for me to think that I must settle, thinking that there are things that I can not have from life.

Becoming present to what I truly want is important. As Canfield states, your wants are true expressions of your core values.

What also stops me at times is believing that I can not make a living at what I truly want to, have or be. Become present to what you love, love to do, have and be, and then use your imagination to think about ways to make money doing what you love. Allow your thoughts, your thought process, to uncover how you can make a living doing what you love.

To create balance in life your vision of what you want needs, in Canfield’s opinoin, take into consideration the following areas or domains of a person’s life: work and career, finances, recreation and free time, health and fitness, relationships, personal goals and contribution to the larger community.

Create your vision, what it is that you want to have, be and do. Once you decide on what it is you want and keep your mind on it constantly, the how will keep showing up.

Remember to never limit your vision or what you want. Let it be as big as you want. Believe that anything is possible.

Share your vision with another person who is positive and supportive. Simply do not let others talk you out of your vision. Stay focused on what it is you want to have, be and do.

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Creating a Relationship Early in Recovery

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

One of the major Red Flags and causes of relapse is the creating of a relationship early in recovery. Even though many individuals are coached to avoid creating relationships in early recovery, many ignore the suggestion and do it anyway. When a person comes into recovery he or she is in a depressed emotional state. Intentional focus should be directed towards or upon the individual alone, upon the person figuring out how one is sourcing his or her experiences into life. This will require an inner journey. Most likely this journey will not be one of pleasure or joy. If a person creates a relationship early in recovery the work will most likely not take place. In addition to the focus now being upon the relationship and not the individual, the pain that must be looked into will be avoided, rather taking on the pleasure of a relationship, esp the sexual aspects of a relationship. If given a choice we will, as human animals, move towards pleasure and will avoid pain. Part of recovery requires that pain be faced and moved into and not avoided. Creating a relationship early in recovery is a major Red Flag.

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