A blog by Dr. Harry Henshaw
Posts tagged life
What are you committed to in life, structure or chaos?
Sep 1st
This is a simple question to asks anyone whether they are in recovery or practicing transformation. What are you committed to in life? Are you committed to structure or are you committed to chaos? Your answer to this question is important. Regardless of what you say, the truth of your commitment will show up in your behavior.
If you are committed to chaos you will find life very difficult. You will also find doing recovery difficult, if not impossible. To be committed to chaos means that you will not do what you say you would do, you will be late for appointments, if you show up at all, will not complete on much of the work that you need to do to change or transform your life. Living life from the perspective of chaos will also allow you to take no absolutely no responsibility for your life, giving you the ability to blame others.
To be structured is to put order into your life. To be structured means that I will set up goals and take on accomplishing them through doing what I need to do. I will show up for my appointments and do what I say I will do. I will create a plan for my week, for my month, and then will go about making what I want happen. Structure lets me predict what will happen to me, as I am the one actively creating life, not being the effect of life. Creating the habit of structure will allow you to transform your life.
Positive Affirmations for Creating Healthy Relationships in your life.
Sep 1st
Positive Affirmations can be utilized for helping you to create healthy relationships in your life. What and how you think is that from which you source into your life. Practicing the positive affirmations listed below will help you to source positive relationships into your life.
1. I am loving, lovable and loved.
2. I accept others for who they are and who they are not.
3. I joyously forgive others and myself and I set myself free from the past. I am at peace.
4. I love and accept myself exactly as I am now.
5. I love. I am love.
6. I respect and care about others.
7. I am grateful for the people in my life.
8. I deserve love in my life.
9. I love everything about myself.
10. I attract loving relationships into my life.
The Breakdowns that those in Recovery will eventually be confronted with.
Sep 1st
What are breakdowns? Experientially breakdowns start to occur when an event or events happen that the individual believes should not happen or ought to happen differently than how they take place.
As a result the individual starts to feel frustrated, angry, disappointed or even sad about what is happening in his life. Inside these types of emotions the person starts to become resentful, creating a story about the event and to which he will eventually begin to blame, be it other people, places, things, situations or circumstances for that which is appearing.
A breakdown eventuates into a relapse when the individual believes that his experience is intolerable, feels inadequate with respect as to how to handle it and chooses to use drugs or alcohol to reduce the emotional component of that he is experiencing. In this case, a breakdown and ones inability to transform the breakdown leads directly to relapse.
Positive Affirmations for Enhancing Self Esteem.
Sep 1st
The following affirmations can be used to enhanced positive self esteem.
Repeating them each day can help to improve what you think and feel about yourself.
1. I love myself.
2. I love everything about myself.
3. I love who I am.
4. I love my life.
5. I am perfect, whole and complete.
6. I love and accept myself exactly as I am now.
7. I always take good care of myself.
8. I love an approve of myself.
9. I am loving, lovable and loved.
10. I am love.
Positive Affirmations for Creating a Positive Body Image
Aug 27th
Positive affirmations can be of help to transform your life. Positive affirmations can also assist you in creating a positive body image.
1. I am perfect, whole and complete.
2. I love and accept myself exactly as I am now.
3. I love everything about myself.
4. i love and approve of myself.
5. I let go of the past. I ive life in and from the present moment.
6. I joyously forgive others and myself and I set myself free from the past. I am at peace.
7. My body restores itself now to its natural state of good health.
8. I always take good care of myself.
9. I have and maintain my ideal, natural and healthy weight.
10. I respect and always take good care of my body.
11. My body is healthy and filled with energy.
12. I have and maintain the weight that I want.
13. I am safe and protected at all times.
14. I can, I am able and I will. I always do my very best.
15. I am good enough just as I am.
You can transform your life with positive affirmations.
Ten Principles for Transformation in Recovery.
Aug 20th
The ten principles listed below can be of assistance to a person who is in recovery. While they are not to be confused as the actual work in recovery they will provide a frame or structure from which to do recovery.
1. To take complete ownership and responsibility for your life. Understand that you have created and chosen your life the way it is occurring. You are the cause of what you experience and your life.
2. Watch your word! Stay present to what you think and say. Choose to say positive things about yourself and others. What you think and say creates your experiences of how life will occur and be for you.
3. Practice your Self Affirmations and Possibilities everyday. Say your Self Affirmations and Possibilities in the morning, throughout the day and before bedtime.
4. What is your Intention? Plan your Intention each morning upon awakening and stay present to it throughout the day. What are you committed to today? What are you committed to now? What is it that you want to create in your life? What is it that you want to create now?
5. Develop your RECOVERY PLAN. Plan your work. Your RECOVERY PLAN is about your life. Your RECOVERY PLAN is about your Integrity. Integrity is the bottom line. Are you in integrity with your RECOVERY PLAN. Are you in Integrity with your life?
6. Develop your DAILY ACTION PLAN. Work your plan. Do it everyday! Your DAILY ACTION PLAN is about your commitment and integrity with respect to your RECOVERY PLAN. Your DAILY ACTION PLAN is about fulfilling on your intention and commitments. Your DAILY ACTION PLAN is about keeping your RECOVERY PLAN in existence!
7. Acknowledge yourself and others daily. Acknowledge the miracles in your life. Practice affirming that every moment of your life is a miracle.
8. Practice patience! Remember that you are doing the best you can. At the moment that we do we do the best we can. When you know more, you will do things differently. Do this in regards to others too.
9. Share with others what you are getting out of your recovery.
10. STAY HUNGRY FOR YOUR RECOVERY!
Positive Affirmations for Letting Go of Smoking.
Aug 20th
Positive Affirmations can help to support your desire to give up smoking, to be done with in your life. Below are listed 10 positive affirmations for supporting effort be recover from smoking.
1. I always take good care of myself.
2. I love and accept myself exactly as I am now.
3. I breathe slowly and deeply.
4. I enjoy the feeling of breathing clean, fresh air.
5. I joyously release the past. I live my life in the present moment. I am at peace.
6. I shoose to be healthy and to treat my body with complete respect and love.
7. I choose to breathe clean, fresh air into my lungs.
8. I am relaxed, calm and peaceful.
9. With each breathe that I take of clean, fresh air I become more and more relaxed.
10. I am perfect, whole and complete.
Part of the work of letting go of smoking is to improve your self image, learn to relax, and let go of the past and the stress that gets generated.
The Work of Generating Positive Language and Words.
Aug 18th
The work of transformation is about creating a new life, about creating a new self. This self, as we know, exists in language. Who we are is our thought, our beliefs and what we say, our Word. To transform, to alter our existence has to be done on the level of our Word, what we say and put out into the world, as that is what will come back to us, what will show up as our experience.
This work that I refer to is exactly that, work. At first the work will be merely an idea that we are contemplating, not necessarily doing. Then we will take on doing it, saying positive words, putting them out into the world. Shortly after we generate positive words we will probably go back to what we did in the past. The tendency in the beginning of the transformation is to keep what we have in existence, to not give it up immediately. It is only through constant staying with this work of generating positive language, of continuing to generate positive words, even when we go back to being negative, that the work actually starts to happen, that actually starts to show up in our life.
Positive Affirmations for Creating a Bright Future.
Aug 18th
Positive Affirmations can be utilized to help a person create the positive future that they want. Below are some positive affirmations that can be of assistance in this process.
1. My future is positive and bright.
2. I always do my very best.
3. I am grateful for what I have in my life.
4. I joyously forgive others and myself and I set myself free from the past. I am at peace.
5. I am responsible for everything that I think, say, feel and do.
6. I create my future by being present in the moment, in the Now.
7. I am perfect, whole and complete.
8. I love and accept myself exactly as I am now.
9. I am intelligent and creative.
10. I am confident and courageous.
Consistent use of these positive affirmations can make a difference in your life.
Comments about the Power of Intention.
Aug 17th
I am currently reading a book by Wayne Dyer, The Power of Intention. This is a very powerful book. Its application to all human beings interested in transforming their lives is very direct, including those in recovery. All of our problems are the result of us being “disconnected” from our source, from intention or God.
While I believe that positive affirmation can help to transform a person’s life, to help them feel better, ultimately this transformation has to led to reestablishing that union that Dr Dyer talks about. Without the connection we live our life from ego, and with this comes the problems and struggles of life. It appears that meditation is part of this process for reconnecting.
The two modalities are important, positive affirmations and meditation. Ester and Jerry Hicks wrote about the power of affirmations and meditation for transforming a person’s life and way of being. When these two modalities are put together the therapeutic result can be very powerful.