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The Control of Fear in Life and My Continuing Transformation

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

Even given the work that I am now doing with my feelings of fear, they still have a tendency to show up in my daily life.  I tend to perceive experiences, people, place and even things, as causing my fear, as them being a threat to, and at times, to my very existence.  I believe that part of me even creates the experiences to cause the fear.  At one level I do believe that I deserve to have fear on a daily basis.  I know I make up stories to match what I believe I deserve to have happen.  The stories I create about myself and life sometimes only goes to providing justification for the fear that I experience.

Part of my work is getting just this, having the awareness or insight.  That is, getting the fact that I am manufacturing the emotion of fear and I am doing it through my thoughts.  Simply stated, my thoughts are causing or creating my fear.  This is the initial insight that I must stay present to constantly.  Again, my work is to first recognize the fear and then practice relaxing my body, thereby letting the fear go.   Meditation allows me to practice the process of relaxation more effectively and efficiently.  However, the work does not end here.

What I now need to do is to work hard at creating a new me, through the work in positive affirmations.  One of the affirmations that I am now working with is “I am safe and protected at all times.”  When I am in fear I feel threatened.  I feel my life is all about survival.  The positive affirmations will help me to transform that way of thinking and thereby create a new set of experiences.  Being safe and protected I must also get reconnected, reconnected for me to spirit or source.  It is this disconnect that is the true source of the problem of fear.

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Staying Present to My Feelings is a Start to My Transformation

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

Given that my life has been about living in a lot of fear, driven by fear, stopped by fear, I am now working on noticing, staying present to my feelings.  When I am aware of me being fearful, tense, I go to relaxing my body and breathing slowly and deeply. This is a practice that I am in the process of making a habit for myself, for helping me to move from the fear based state to one of relaxation.  It is work because from time to time I find myself caught up in fear and then have to consciously tell myself to relax.

I am also listening more to my music, my relaxation music.  I am listening to the music not as a musician but as one practicing relaxation.  I am now listening to my own products, listening to be more relaxed and at peace within myself.  I know that if I listen to the relaxation music repeatedly for awhile that I can use the music to relax myself when I need it, when I am in that state of fear.  I can not be in fear and relaxed at the same time.  I am now training myself to make a conscious choice to be relaxed and give up the fear.

The next part of this process is to start to work on changing my fundamental internal language, what I say and how I talk to myself.  I plan to focus on the use of positive affirmations to help me create a more healthy and happy state of existence.

The Dance on the Roller Coaster Ride of Life

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

Given the importance of self esteem and our lack of it, life sometimes appears as a dance.  One moment we are living in our possibility, feeling that our life is truly transforming, that life itself is full of joy and tranquility.  And in another moment we are gripped by fear, believing that everything will turn out bad, that we will fail at what we are taking on, that there is something wrong with us.  The dance, the going back and forth between these two states, happens daily, sometimes ever hourly.  The dance is part of the roller coaster ride that we as human beings are to participate in.

Our work is to stay, as much as possible, in our possibility, to come to belief that we are, for example, perfect, whole and complete.  There are many practices that we can engage in that will help us with this part of our growth.  The being of our possibility is very fragile and can disappear in a moment leaving us with being our self limiting belief and all of the negative emotions that come with it.  Awareness of the dance and the roller coaster ride is part of the transformation that will set us free from the prison of our beliefs about ourselves.  We need to know that such a dance exists and that we will engage in it from time to time, accepting the fact that the dip part of the ride will happen.

One of the modalities that can help you with strengthening your belief about yourself is the use of affirmations.  Using affirmations keeps you in possibility and with repeated use will help to transform your identity and view of yourself.

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Living Life from Fear and Creating the Possibility of Transformation

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

For many, myself included, life tends to be lived from a state of fear.  The feeling or emotion of fear can, it seems, paralyze you, stopping you from living life.  It can appear as though your entire existence is about being in a state of fear.  How we respond to the fear can present a problem to many, again, myself included.  Sometimes we deal with the fear of people, places and things by using a variety of substances to subdue the feelings we are having, the fear, making us feel better if only for a short period of time.  We tend to merely focus on changing the emotion itself and not the root cause of the emotion.

As difficult as it may be, the only true transformation of fear, is through changing the thoughts that generate the emotion of fear.  We know that how and what we think does in fact cause us to feel a certain way.  What and how we think will cause our feelings.  Our emotions or feelings are merely how our body experiences our thinking or thought pattern.  The true focus has to be to transform our thinking process, to change the thoughts and beliefs that we have about something.

The most important thought or belief that we have is one that has to do with us.  What we think and believe about ourselves does matter.  It matters a lot.  It is this belief that determines our life.  How and what we think about ourselves creates our experiences. We are truly the cause of our life and it our thinking about ourselves that is the root or source of our life.  What we do, the experiences that we have, have to be in alignment with what we think and feel about ourselves.  To transform your life you have to transform what you think and feel about ourselves.  This process of primary to your transformation.

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The Importance of Insight in Your Transformation

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

Everyone will experience a breakdown in life, at one time or another, and in one form or another.  In addition to getting through the breakdown, what is important about the event is what we gain or learn from the experience.  Learning how to deal with and eventually transform the experience of a breakdown will assist us in continuing to transform our life.  But this process of learning begins with having insight.  Having insight is crucial in our transformational process.

The initial phase of having this insight into our breakdown has to do with recognizing when we are in a breakdown.  If we are not aware of the fact that we are having a breakdown and continue to function as if in darkness, there will be no transformation, merely the same as it has always been in the past,  The key to such awareness is to be found in how the we are feeling about what is happening in our life at any one moment.  There have been many times in our lives where we do not stop to monitor or become present to how we are feeling.  It is from our feelings that we know that work has to be done with respect to the breakdown we are going through.

Sometimes we have a tendency to merely ignore or move away from how we are feeling about something or someone, about people, places or things.  Breakdowns have certain emotional states attached to their design or existence.  Those most common are emotions such as fear, anxiety, anger, frustration and sadness, negative emotions.  The first part of having insight is to monitor ones feeling state, to become present to how one is feeling and to do so to the point that it becomes part of ones very way of being in the world.

Learning how to stay aware of ones emotional state is crucial to being able to successfully transform the breakdown experience that is being created.  If aware we can act accordingly, take the necessary steps to transform the situation or event as it is occurring.

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The Importance of Self Esteem!

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

Positive self-esteem is very important if not crucial to our happiness and well being as a human being.  Having positive self-esteem can make the difference in that which we take on in life, in that which we go about achieving and creating.  Having positive self- esteem also allows us to have healthy and joyous relationships with others, to experience true intimacy.  One could also assert that having positive self-esteem gives us access to genuine spirituality.   Poor self-esteem, on the other hand, creates the space for us to experience a great deal of negativity in life including depression, anxiety, fear, stress and loneliness.  Negative or poor self-esteem is also highly correlated with alcohol and drug dependency.  Some even believe that a negative or poor self-image is the source of such addictions.

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Recognizing a Breakdown is vital to Transforming it.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

The first component of having insight or awareness about oneself has to do with recognizing when one is in a breakdown. The key to such awareness is to be found in how the individual is feeling about what is happening in his life at any one moment.  There are many times in our lives where we do not stop to monitor or become present to how we are feeling. Sometimes we have a tendency to merely ignore or move away from how we are feeling about something or someone, people, places or things.  Breakdowns have certain emotions attached to their design.  Those most common are emotions such as fear, anxiety, anger, frustration and sadness. The first part of utilizing or having insight in this respect is to monitor ones feeling state, to become present to how one is feeling and to do so to the point that it becomes part of ones very way of being in the world. Learning how to stay aware of ones emotional state is crucial to being able to successfully transform the breakdown experience that is being created by the person.

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Fear appearing as though it is running your life.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

The emotion of fear and how it can appear to be running our life is of great importance to have an inquiry about.  We sometimes believe that the emotion of fear is running our life, that it can stop us, control us and limit us from getting out of life what we say we want.  We do have a tendency to believe that fear is the cause of some of our problems, some of the difficulties that we are experiencing.  While there is some truth to this, it is more that fear is an emotion that we experience, sometimes to the point that we truly believe that it stops us.  As an emotion fear has something in common with all emotions.  An emotion or feeling is how our body experiences our thinking, how we experience thoughts and beliefs in our body.  The emotion of fear is no different as it is created or driven by a thought, one very fundamental and basic to our very core, of who we think we are.  Fundamentally we believe that we are not good enough, and as a result experience the emotion of fear as well as others emotions and feelings.  Fear is about me believing that I can not really handle life, that somehow it will handle me, that I am not adequate enough as a person to live life fully, that somehow I am not good enough to do life properly.  Once I have that I am not good enough I will perceive of the world and others as more powerful and adequate than me and as a result be open to the emotional response of fear when life starts to show up as I created it.

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Staying present to and expressing my truth.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

Staying present to and committed to expressing my truth is important.  I need to say what I believe and not hold it back, or create reasons to not say what I need to say to others.  We have a tendency to hold back, to not say what we want to say to others, creating the excuse that we do not want to hurt the other person’s feelings.  What happens is that we hold our truth back and are not honest with the other person and inauthentic with ourselves.  We end up not being fully self expressed with the other person and the relationship suffers.  While we say that we do not want to hurt the other person’s feelings it is really we do not want the other person to leave us.  If I say what I want and need to say the person may not like what I have to say and will leave me.  That is the fear.  That is truly why I do not share my truth with the other person.  In the end the relationship may not survive if I am honest but then again maybe it was not meant to be.  Holding onto something that maybe should not have been, because of my fear, my fear of being alone, is truly inauthentic and in the end, will not continue regardless of what we hold back.

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Notes on the Big Book – Bill’s Story

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

Chapter One – Bill’s Story

There appears to be a sense of feeling lonely for me and then the turn to alcohol for relief.

There is also the drive for success, to prove to someone and the world that I am important.

Alcohol eventually took an important and exhilarating part of my life. And as it did so my friends left, leaving me alone.

When I would drink a sense of empowerment and determination would appear and be experienced by me.

My work and employment were eventually affected by my actions and drinking.

Alcohol eventually became a necessity for me.

However, there was still a sense of control, of being able to control the alcohol.

Eventually my self will weakened with respect to alcohol.

Self knowledge is not the way to freedom.

Loneliness, despair and fear appear and are experienced by me as I drink.

“I was soon to be catapulted into what I like to call the fourth dimension of existence. I was to know happiness, peace and usefulness in a way of life that is incredibly more wonderful as time passes.”

Someone reached out to me.

Loss of hope was and had become apparent to me.

My Salvation rested on believing in a power greater than myself.

I simply had to believe in a Spirit of the Universe, who knew neither time nor limitation.

God does for us what we can not do for ourselves.

I soon realized that there must be an admission of complete defeat with respect to alcohol.

“Had this power originated in him? Obviously it had not. There had been no more power in him than there was in me at that minute; and this was none at all.”

The concept or notion of God triggers our past, bringing up our experiences of what we refer to as religion, “vestiges of my old prejudice.”

We can choose our own conception of God.

It started from a mere willingness to believe in a power greater than myself.

With a belief in or a willingness to believe in God a “new world came into view.”

Our experience of a power greater than myself gets “blotted out by worldly clamors, mostly those within myself.”

“There I humbly offered myself to God, as I then understood Him, to do with me as He would. I placed myself unreservedly under His care and direction. I admitted for the first time that of myself I was nothing; that without Him I was lost.”

When I had a problem or was in doubt I was to sit quietly and ask for God’s direction and strength to meet my problems.

I was never to pray for myself, “except as my requests bore on my usefulness to others.”

The work was to obtain a new relationship with my Creator, God. “Belief in the power of God, plus enough willingness, honest and humility to establish and maintain the new order of things, were the essential requirements.”

I had to give up my self-centeredness. I must turn it all over to God.

When I do so there will be a sense of victory, and a feeling of peace and serenity.

I must also be of help to others. They in turn may assist still others.

I must demonstrate this work and its principles in all my affairs.

Faith is critical, but “faith without works was dead.”

“Most of us feel we need look no further for Utopia. We have it with us right here and now.”

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