It is our expectations that will cause us to be emotionally upset. It is our expectations that will cause us to be frustrated and even angry. These expectations can apply to people, places and things. With respect to people, to others, we need to especially be careful of the expectations that we create. If I have an expectation that someone should be a certain way, act a certain way, then I have the possibility of being upset, of the expectation not being fulfilled and me emotionally affected. The degree of the upset will be proportional to the attachment that I have with respect to the other person. The key is not to never have expectations as to have them is part of being human. We will create expectations of others, as we will of places and things. Our transformative work is to recognize them when they are not being fulfilled and then to give them up, to let them go. Giving them up and letting them go of the expectation allows one to not be attached to the expectation, thereby avoiding being emotionally upset. Our body, how we feel, is the key to our recognition of being emotionally upset and frustrated.
