A blog by Dr. Harry Henshaw
Posts tagged change
Our Nature as Human Being Involves Resistance.
Jul 30th
As human beings we do not really want or like to change. We like for things to be the same, for us not to have to put forth much effect to have what we say we want. We do not want to change and even, will resist change especially if another human being attempts to help us. Yes, we do change but we have to first get it that we do not want to change. Accepting our resistance is important for the process. We must first accept the fact that we will resist change in order for us to take it into consideration in our planning to transform our lives. It is important for us to plan and to make goals but it is equally important for us to plan how we will resist the process, will resist our achieving the goals we set. Such planning gives us power to respond appropriately when needed.
In my work in recovery I counsel people in how to recognize when they are resisting, when they are doing things to counter the goals they set and say they want. Such insight is important and necessary if individuals are to say in the program of recovery. The resistance will also show up in the very suggestions that are given, by a sponsor or therapist. The tendency is not only to resist but to continue to do it his or her way, with the results usually the same, much of how it was in the past. Our tendency is to try to do things and life our way, even when we continue to get the same results.
Affirmations for Recovery from Drugs and Alcohol
Jul 8th
The use of positive affirmations can be very powerful, can help a person to enhance their life and even strengthen ones recovery. Below are positive affirmations for recovery from Drugs and Alcohol. Using these affirmations daily can strengthen ones overall program of recovery.
1. I am grateful for the things and people in my life.
2. I am open minded. I am willing to learn.
3. I trust and allow others to help me. I follow suggestions.
4. I am responsible for everything that I think, say, fell and do.
5. I joyously release the past. I am at peace.
6. I have the courage to change the things I can change.
7. I love everything about myself. I am perfect, whole and complete.
8. I am willing to change.
9. I love and accept myself exactly as I am now. I love my life.
10. I accept the things that I can not change.
Taking suggestions is one of the keys to recovery and transforming your life.
Jun 8th
Our tendency is to continue in the direction that we are headed. Our tendency is to continue in the direction that we are headed unless something happens that will create a necessity to alter our chosen path. Once we pause to contemplate the direction that we are headed and begin to consider a possibility our life we do enter a space of true change and transformation. For us to utilize the insight that is generated from this space will require that we seek the assistance of another person, of another human being. If we do not seek the assistance of another person our tendency will be to get back into the habitual way of being from which we came, that created our current life situation. This requires that we communicate with another person and allow that individual to help direct us, to assist us in our journey. No recovery or transformation takes place unless we communicate with another human being. To gain the benefits of this communication requires that we take suggestions from another human being.
Our tendency is to stay the same.
May 19th
While we realize that change is both important and necessary, we will have a tendency to stay the same, to not change. We are creatures of habit in just about everything that we do in life. For us to change we will have to do a variety of things, most of them counter to how we have been doing business in life, sometimes for years. First we have to outline what it is we need to do. For this we will need help from others, through counsel or sponsorship. Second we need to create a schedule that will give us the opportunity to implement what we have come to believe is necessary for our transformation. Third, we have to stay committed to the program that we have created and realize that it will take time, that it will not happen immediately or over night. We have to be patient and persistent. Realizing that our tendency though is to stay the same give us power to transform our life.