Tag Archives: belief

Creating a New Self is the Way to Transform a Breakdown.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

The fourth component of Holistic Counseling involves creating a possibility or new self given the breakdown experience.  This powerful act of creation can be to develop a new view of oneself or get back into previously chosen possibility or goal of who you want to be in life.  Creating possibilities or a new self can be life transforming.  However, once we are convinced that we are being our self limiting belief, that the source of the breakdown is the self limiting belief and not that which the story tends convey, it is at that moment that we can develop a new self or possibility to be at that moment, a new self given the breakdown experience.  It is by creating a new self or possibility by our spoken word that the experience itself will begin to transform.  The breakdown only happens because of who we are being. It is by causing a new self to come into existence through our word that our inadequate way of being will begin to completely dissolve and with it the breakdown itself. It is with the creation of a new self or possibility that the person’s power and freedom are once again restored.

Itunes Store and the Relaxation Music of Harry Henshaw and Enhanced Healing

Your Self Limiting Belief and Breakdowns.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

The third component or aspect of Holistic Counseling with respect to breakdowns involves becoming present to ones self-limiting belief, to the source, to that which actually created the breakdown.  Becoming present or aware of ones self limiting belief, to that which has determined ones life up until the process of transformation began to take place, is the first component in the process of Holistic Counseling.  Even though the awareness of ones self-limiting belief will create the space for the person to begin to create his life anew, it does not go away, become fixed or get cured. The self-limiting belief, much like a virus that has appeared in the human body, continues to exist.  As with any idea that we have or create about us, it is also a way of being.  We be or exist by what we think and more specifically by what we think about ourselves. What we are familiar with is being our self-limiting belief in the world. It is familiar for us to think and feel that the world is more powerful and real than we are and furthermore, that it is something that must be controlled and even survived. We will eventually experience a breakdown given our sense of inadequacy with respect to the world as this is how we have been in the community in the past. However, once the self-limiting belief is again distinguished the inauthenticity begins to weaken or be dissolved.

Itunes Store and the Relaxation Music of Harry Henshaw and Enhanced Healing

More on Dealing with Breakdowns in Recovery.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

Within the work of holistic counseling, the process of gaining insight will assist the individual in becoming authentic and also allow that person to stay in his recovery.  Gaining insight is a very important component of holistic counseling, the utilization of which allows the individual to move out of his self-limiting belief and back into being his created possibility.  When one begins to experience a breakdown he has gone back into being his self-limiting belief.  Their will be the story which is made up about what is happening in his life and also that which is hidden from him, that which is truly directing and creating his life, including the story. The technology of the insight process allows the individual the ability to transform his experience by being authentic and as a result letting go of being his self limiting belief thereby regaining his power and freedom through being his possibilities.  Utilization of the process of insight as with transformation itself is a practice that requires a great deal of commitment.  As with any skill the structure of gaining insight is taught and it is in communication with the persons coach or even sponsor that its implementation is brought forth into the individual’s life.

Itunes Store and the Relaxation Music of Enhanced Healing and Harry Henshaw

Self Discovery through Holistic Counseling.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

Becoming aware of that which has been hidden most of his life, to that which has been truly determining his very being in life, allows one the opportunity to change his life. Once one gets who he has been being in life, the second component of the holistic process is for the individual to begin to create his life as a possibility. Once the understanding of the self-limiting belief is realized, the individual is now able to truly create a new possibility for himself and his life.  Getting the self-limiting belief creates the space or an opening for a possibility or even possibilities to be created not as a result or product of the internal barrier but from or out of nothing.  It is only from knowing that which has limited us that possibility can truly be created.  As with the self-limiting belief, possibility exists in language.  Once one gets the language that he has been being, that has defined and limited him through being his self-limiting belief, it is at this point that he can begin to recreate himself through the power of his word. Who we are is our word.  In is in ones language or word that one has access to changing his life, and creating possibility and change for himself.

Itunes Store and the Relaxation Music of Harry Henshaw and Enhanced Healing

Holistic Counseling for Transformation and Recovery.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

Given that much of our life is lived in a state of pretending, from the construct of ego, becoming present to that which is hidden, to who we are truly being in life, is absolutely necessary for transformation and recovery. It is in that which is primarily hidden from us that one will discover what is determining ones life, referred to here as ones self-limiting belief. The first component of the holistic process is for one to become present to the hidden thoughts and beliefs that have been limiting him in life and in particular to his self-limiting belief. It is in the being of the self-limiting belief that one will discover the primary constraint or barrier to his life, to him living a life that he loves and living it powerfully. We live life from who we think we are.  Who we think we are forms the background for our life.  Having the awareness or distinction of the self-limiting belief allows one the ability to not be it, to not have his life be merely the reply of the past. Without the distinction of the self-limiting belief one will continue to create his life from the backdrop of this ideational barrier and as a result life will appear much as it did in the past.

Itunes Store and the Relaxation Music of Harry Henshaw and Enhanced Healing

Holistic Counseling and Transforming Ones Life.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

Holistic Counseling is about assisting another to transform his life. Transforming ones life is not about changing it. While life is much about doing differently, the genesis of the transformation is about a person altering or transforming his belief or thought of who he thinks he is.

We tend to believe that our life is determined or influenced by people, places, things, situations and circumstance and that who we are is the mere accumulation of our past experiences but this is not so. Rather, it is our thoughts and beliefs that determine our experiences and life and also that we are completely and solely responsible for their creation.

What we think and believe, especially about ourselves, determines our emotions and behavior in the world and it is our behavior that merely validates what we think and believe about ourselves. Furthermore, we believe or think that we know who we are in life but the reality is that we truly do not. Much of who we are really being we are simply not present to. Much of our life is spent in pretense and who we are really being is hidden from us.

Itunes Store and the Relaxation Music of Harry Henshaw

Footprints of a life after a passing.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

My mother passed on July 1st of this year.  The experience and time that has passed after it have been difficult to say the least.  Shortly after my mother passed we started to put her affairs and estate into order.  Part of this process was the cleaning of her house in preparation for it being sold.  All of the material objects that she possessed and loved are in the process of leaving her house.  My brother told me during the process that mom’s footprints are being erased from life.

While I get what he said I do not think that this is completely true.  Much of what she had and even created will disappear and either cease to exist or be transferred to others.  However, it is my belief that her most important footprints were her children, me being one of them.  She and my father created us, nurtured us and guided us through live.  It is up to us to honor her and our father by being of service to others in the world.  We are her footprints that matter in life.  With the transferring of our way of being to our children we continue to keep her footprints as well as my father’s, alive.

Itunes Store and the Relaxation Music of Harry Henshaw

Reflections upon my Transformation.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

To transform my life is not about just changing it, the outside or external parts of my life.  It is about transforming my thoughts, my thinking, and more importantly, who I think I am.  This fundamental core belief about my identity, who I am in the world, is very difficult to alter, as it has been around along time and has been supported in a variety of ways.  For the most part, and for many, it is hidden from view, hidden from the individual who life it rules.

This transformation to which I refer is difficult as my core belief, my self limiting belief, attempts to stay in control.  It does not want to change, as it is my identity, who I think I am.  We must have an identity, even if it is negative one.  The transformation that will take place is slow and will require consistent and constant effort.  The intervention that I am using is the use of positive affirmations.  Saying and writing the positive affirmations everyday will eventually transform a person’s life and ultimately who he or she thinks they are in the world and in life.

Itunes Store and the Relaxation Music of Enhanced Healing

Keeping life in perspective is important for living.

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

It is important that we keep life in perspective.  It is important for us keep life in perspective to be able to live our life authentically.  Much of the time people live life as if it will never end, as if we will live forever.  For some, they become addicted to thinking that they will continue forever, that we will never die.  Even if we do not declare this overtly, our behavior appears to be in alignment with the belief in our immortality.  In all of our affairs it is important for us to keep in mind that life is not forever and that we consider all of our priorities with this in mind.  Given this perspective it is my opinion that it is not material concerns that are important but rather our relationships with others, with other human beings, that being of service and assistance is truly what matters in life.

Itunes Store and the Relaxation Music of Enhanced Healing

Power of Thought and Recovery

Posted on by Dr Harry Henshaw

Those in recovery begin to transform their lives when they start to get the power of their thought. When they start to get that their thinking is the true cause of much of what they are experiencing. The difficulty for some in getting this, and using it, is that they have to begin to give up blame and start to assume responsibility for their life. The feel of success will keep them from transforming their life. The belief that they are not good enough will keep them from true transformation and happiness. When one believes that he or she is not good enough there will be no experience of a connection with God or spirit.

Itunes Store and the Relaxation Music of Enhanced Healing