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Three Stages to Forgiveness
There are three stages to forgiveness.
1. To forgive the person who you believe hurt you in some way.
2. To forgive yourself for making them wrong.
3. To get it that forgiveness itself was not necessary.
To move on with our life, to be happy, we must learn to forgive. To forgive requires first to forgive the person who we believe harmed us. Forgiveness is not saying that what another did towards us is ok but rather it is just a decision to let go. What the person did was not personal. What the person did was the best he or she could do. Next it is necessary for us to forgive ourselves for making the person wrong, for passing judgment on the person. Our work here is to get that we too are doing the best that we can and just let go of the judgment. The third part is to get that forgiveness itself was not necessary, that what happened took place in the Divine order that it was supposed to take place, that it was perfect simply because it happened the way that it happened. Surrender to this transforms us and our life.
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